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Showing posts with label condoms. Show all posts
Showing posts with label condoms. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Kids, sex, sex, kids.

So I'm writing my thesis and I keep coming across the same preachings:
Talk to us about sex!!!
We speak, we listen, we hear, we know, we see, we deserve!!!

People of the internet, I just don't get it. For why?!?! For why people are dismissing sex education to youth?!?!

Dear parents,
You know how your daughter went to that sleepover? You think she's watching Snow White?! Bitch please. *
You know how your son likes to take long showers? You think he's washing behind his ears?! Twice?!?! Bitch please.

You know condoms? You think kids think they are balloons?! Bitch please.

You know puberty? You think it's a synonym for anatomy?! Bitch please.

You know how school is JUST what they [teachers] teach and not what happens anywhere else?! It isn't! Bitch please.

You know how ignorance is bliss?! Bitch please.

Knowledge saves lives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Educate youth. Educate them now. EDUCATE DAMN IT!!!!

Educate, and then celebrate, with chocolate cake, (and a condom).


Stay safe, sexually speaking

*I'm not suggesting that she is watching porn, but possibly something rated PG13, 14A? Restricted even? Sexually explicit material? Your ass knows it.

Thursday, October 13, 2011

I am the best option!!! Options for Sexual Health news

The greatest thing to ever happen ever has JUST happened. I just received a phone call from the president of OPT saying:

"Congratulations Sarah, you have been awarded the title of Options for Sexual Health volunteer of the YEAR!"



WICKEDDDD!!!! So on Saturday, October 22nd, there will be an annual general meeting and an awards ceremony where I will be praised for my efforts and additions to sexual health education!

DREAM ACHIEVED!!!!!!

I'm SUPER psyched and honoured to be awarded this delicious award; however, buses and prices pending, I may or may not go...
I will get the certificate regardless, but I am unsure of my status next weekend...

Nevertheless, WICKED, no?!??!!

Stay tuned for a picture of my certificate, condom demonstrations, and some details about how OPT's community events have been going in the town I currently reside.

SO EXCITED!!!!

Stay tuned, sexually speaking
--Sarah Award-worthy Bryant

Thursday, August 25, 2011

The MEDIA and its all-consuming, disturbingly influential power

Teen Mom: A popular show on MTV that I frequently watch for entertainment and research purposes.
Jersey Shore: A popular show on MTV that I am ashamed to say I frequently watch… for entertainment and “what not to do” purposes. 





When I first caught an episode of Teen Mom (the second season), I was on the fence as to whether it a) glorified teenage motherhood by putting ill-informed decision making on television and essentially making parenting look easier than it is, or b) depicted the reality of the challenges and struggles of growing up as a kid raising a kid. I was leaning more towards (a) at the beginning of my watching, but now that I have seen a season and a half, and watched the episodes with Dr. Drew and the “16 and Pregnant” series, I do believe that shows like Teen Mom could be seen as multimedia presentations of sexual health education.

Here’s the thing that bugs me about it:

On the show, the girls say things like “well, at least my child loves me”, etc. Having a baby is not a good way to have love in your life. First of all, don’t you love yourself? Second of all, if you want something that loves you, get a dog. Dogs love everyone! If you don’t think you can handle a dog, get a fish.













Here’s the thing that I like about it:

The show’s cast is a group of girls who all fall under similar categories: They misused birth control, they are struggling to complete and pay for college, they have lacking or unhealthy relationships with the fathers of their children, and they are essentially stressed out. I mean, we all get stressed, but imagine being 17 or 18 years old and stressing about yourself, your finances, your education, AND your child and all the business that is involved with him/her! I admire women who can raise children at a young age, but we should not be advocating for this. None of these teen mothers have said (at least not in the episodes I have seen), “oh I planned to have this child at 16 years old”. I couldn’t imagine it, to be honest. As much as I love babies for very short periods of time when they aren’t screaming, hellllll no. At 18 years old, I could barely take care of myself! Quite some time has passed and I feel the same way!!
On Teen Mom, there is also a couple who gave their child up for adoption. When comparing this teen mother to the ones that opted to keep their children, one can see that there are options that can positively influence your life, such as adoption.

So Teen Mom is an interesting show that talks about teen pregnancy and the realities of raising a child as a young adolescent. At the end of each episode, a website is shown that gives facts and tips on how to be in control of your sex life: www.itsyoursexlife.org! <3 Also, while I’m praising websites, let me throw down my favourite www.sexualityandu.ca ! Both websites are great and I strongly encourage you to go here, regardless of who you are. YOU are a sexual being; therefore, YOU need to know how to control your sex life!

Here’s the thing that bugs me more:

MTV, I love you. You are good for a laugh and you play some stupid shows that I just can’t get enough of. You do, however, play a show that goes out of its way to show me everything I shouldn’t teach someone about sexual health education. How do you do this? With an eccentric gem of a show called Jersey Shore. Despite the fact that I watch this show, I follow the complete opposite of what they preach (guys: sleep with everything that moves; girls: drink a lot and put out). The reason I think it is okay for ME to watch this show is because I am an adult who is educated and aware of her sexual rights and responsibilities. Younger individuals, however, are heavily influenced by the media, and so when I hear that a 13 year old watches Jersey Shore, I cry tears of blood and fear.

SOLUTION:
Do I think MTV needs to get rid of Jersey Shore? Not necessarily. I like my mindless television programming. What I do think needs to be done about Jersey Shore is to give it a rating of at LEAST 14A. 18+ even.
There is way too much careless drinking and sexing on this show to make it okay for children to be influenced by it.
I just hope they use condoms.


ANOTHER SOLUTION:

Here’s a better idea. How about the cast of Jersey Shore advocates for LifeStyle condoms? Every person in the world would use a condom if players like the guys on Jersey Shore used them! I think all celebrities should advocate for birth control. You bitches have so much power; use it wisely! Much like charity fundraising and the like, MTV stars should advocate for birth control and not drinking and driving. That’s ONE thing Jersey Shore does right: I never see them drink and drive. They always hop in a cab. Thanks friends.





Arrive alive,
don’t drink and drive!!




So Teen Mom is awesome for educating about birth control by promoting www.itsyoursexlife.org at the end of the show, and Jersey Shore is not so awesome because of sexualized gender stereotyping that COULD negatively influence our youth.

Sarah’s words of wisdom: The things you see on television are meant to entertain you. Don’t let the media guide all of your decisions, especially if they revolve around sex. Let educated sources and credible experts help you make your own. Also, use condoms. And spermicide.

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Dear Secondary Schools,

Dear secondary schools,

Hi. I'm Sarah. I volunteer for Options for Sexual Health in Kelowna, British Columbia. It is an excellent place where we educate, celebrate, and shower youth with positive vibes and birth control such as condoms and 'the pill'.

Why we are awesome
:

We are realistic, positive, and understanding. Youth are curious about sex. We are cool with that.


Why you should let us in your schools:

I just recently helped out at Sexual Health Day on the Okanagan college campus as part of Options for Sexual Health. It was a blast. Youth 18+ deserve information and resources about sex. Not many people would argue against this. There are plenty of resources and information and education for students in post-secondary institutions. What about kids in school who are just curious and inquisitive? What about Sally who has a question about foreplay? What about Billy who wants to know why erections happen? What about Steven who wants to know how to tell his parents he is gay? What about all of those kids whose questions are not being answered in straight up safety and prevention health ed classes where sex ed is barely touched on? What about these same kids who are spending their Friday nights confused about whether or not they are 'allowed' to kiss, etc.?

OPT is gorgeous. I work there. I would LOVE to come to your school and motivate kids to be positive and confident in their sexual identity. I would LOVE to teach girls that their menstrual cycles are beautiful things and tell guys that every male gets erections and to embrace these bodily changes! I would LOVE to smile and sing and know that sexual health education is being progressive, transformative and effective, and that it is changing people's lives for the better. I would LOVVVVVEEEE to say that we are embracing another sexual revolution and everyone is okay with what is going on in the world (sexually).

Can I please come to your school? KSS, I'm talking to YOU! First stop, colleges and universities, which are now informed about STIs and how to avoid unwanted pregnancies. Next stop, secondary schools: places where kids are silently asking for sex education from people who are not afraid to say "sex happens. Let's deal".

A stop after that? Middle school. <-- That's the dream. :)

Dear schools,
My name is Sarah. And students, youth, kids, and others are reading this blog... and agreeing. Let credible, comprehensive information into your schools. Let it be.


Love,
Your favourite sexual education enthusiast,
Sarah Abstinence-is-only-an-option-not-the-only-option Bryant


PS. Condoms are not scary.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Exploring, Questioning, Reflection - Am I ready?


Resources are a beautiful thing. In this world wide web of knowledge, one can find everything from blogs about paste to encyclopedias with words that are 67 letters long. It's fantastic.

Everyone is a sexual being, and thus, since we all have that common thread, one would think that this means there are a lot of sexual resources out there. Yes... there are!!

I recently stumbled upon this gorgeous site called www.TheSite.org http://www.thesite.org/ which is a site that claims to be "your guide to the real world". Naturally, I assumed there would be comprehensive, down to earth, sexual information. I was right... as I typically am.

On this site, one can find facts about sex and relationships, STIs, general health and wellness, safer sex, virginity facts, menstruation myths, and more!



I want to make reference to the section "Risky Sex", because it makes me laugh.

He says he'll pull out before he cums.
You trust a man to have willpower whilst he is orgasming? You shouldn't. Would you remember to do anything other than 'enjoy it' whilst orgasming?

I don't have any diseases. I don't screw around.

HAH! Stop kidding yourself. People lie all the time. Go get a physical.

You'd do it if you loved me.
Slap any bitch who says this to you. You'd not use that line on me if you loved me, douchebag. *rolls eyes*. Love can cloud your judgment, and I understand this, but be aware of love's shade over your eyes. Don't let manipulative lines like this fool you. Know your values and your stance, and make sure your partner knows them too.

I was so out of it, I can't really remember.
I'd advise you to go get checked and check if the condom in your purse is gone. Be careful mixing booze and sex. If you are not aware, anything can happen. Sketch.


Another interesting section to read on this site is Sex with a new partner. When you change partners, make sure you discuss values, limitations, and stances regarding sex. Not everyone is the same and you'd be surprised what you cannot 'read' on someone. I'll give you a clue: their sexual preferences! Be open, honest, communicative, and confident about where you stand.

This site also mentions something I truly believe in:
When assessing whether or not one is ready for sex, think of this:
Are you afraid to carry a condom in your purse/wallet?
Are you afraid to talk about sex?
Comfort is key... so get comfortable about it.

Much more to come from this site, but check it out! It's fantastic. Much like sexualityandu.ca, TheSite.org is the reason I get up in the morning.

Advocating for staying safe, sexually speaking, TheSite and I bid you adieu... for now.

And now, I'm off to give a chat about Sexual Health and Relationships! Ah, Sex Week. :) Gotta love university.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Sex (ed) with Sarah: male edition



Good morning all!

Last night, I was honoured with the privilege of going to one of the residences at school and speaking to guys about safer sex. I brought oodles of pamphlets and a carton of condoms, and it was all very well received.

At the end of the demonstration... clearly, I rocked the condoms on a banana ordeal...
After that, I was interviewed by the lovely Brian about what I brought and some of my views about safe sex.
How celebrity am I? SO celebrity, it scares people.

So here is the "male edition" of Safer Sex ed. The female edition will be coming soon.

Stay safe! (sexually speaking).

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

I'm just mad about safe sex!

Greetings my people,

Okay, so I have been reading a lot about abstinence-only, comprehensive, and broad-based sex education and what parents, students, and teachers have to say about all of these forms. I have decided to make a video of me dishing out some issues in a scattered manner. I am getting better at my video making skills, so I have a feeling you will enjoy this whether it is because I'm wearing a hat, or because I have interesting things to say.

Condoms are beautiful!!!! Alright. Enjoy. (Part 2: Sex-positive Education, will be uploaded shortly).


Sunday, April 25, 2010

Dear Parents

Alright,

I've read some heated discussions surrounding whether or not a parent should be responsible for the sex education over a teacher.
If a parent wants to tackle that issue with his/her son/daughter, MAD PROPS!

Seriously? I think it would be a tad awkward to sit down with mom or dad and be all like "condoms"... It's just awkward.
Studies have shown that most parents (approximately 80%) in Canada like the idea of a comprehensive sex education to be taught to their child at school. Trust me... these people know what they are talking about. Teachers are trained to deliver information to people in a certain brilliant way. There are sexual health education certificates available for teachers who specifically want to teach sexual health.

Teachers know safe sex and how to approach it!

I agree wholeheartedly that a parent is the primary educator of his/her child. There is NO questioning there... but teachers are around for a reason. We rule, that's what!

Also, parents are biased. If a parent is uncomfortable speaking about sexual orientation, a teacher will tackle it. Teachers are comprehensive and parents are selective, in my opinion. Kids need all the facts. If we teach kids all the facts, they will be like "oh wow... this adult trusts me with this information". In turn, they will be confident and equipped with making healthy and (hopefully) well-informed decisions. Clearly, I cannot read a 13 year old's mind, but I'm just saying... studies have shown... and this is the data we can rely on.

Also, I've talked to kids, teens, and the general youth. Trust me. They think about sex, and they WISH we would talk about it like it's not that big of a deal.

Use a condom Charlie Brown!

Use a condom Charlie Brown!
When? How? Ahhh! I'm scared of sex!

Step one?

Step one?
Are you in love? Do you need to be? What are the parameters?

Bingo!

Bingo!

Sex education in popular culture

  • The 40 year old Virgin
  • S&M by Rhianna
  • The Late night Sex show
  • The Purity Myth: How America's obsession with virginity is hurting young women
  • Laid: Young People's Experiences with Sex in an Easy-Access Culture
  • The Abstinence Teacher
  • The Purity Pledge
  • The Magdalene Sisters
  • Dangerous Liaisons
  • Skipped Parts
  • Thanks for Coming: One young woman's quest for an orgasm
  • Mean Girls
  • Britney Spears